The Definition of the Word Tantra
Buddha’s teachings include both sutras and tantras. The sutras present the basic themes of practice for gaining liberation from uncontrollably recurring problems (Skt. samsara) and, beyond that, to reach the enlightened state of a Buddha, with the ability to help others as much as is possible. The themes include methods for developing ethical self-discipline, concentration, love, compassion, and a correct understanding of how things actually exist. The tantras present advanced practices based on the sutras.
The Sanskrit word tantra means the warp of a loom or the strands of a braid. Like the strings of a warp, the tantra practices serve as a structure for intertwining the sutra themes to weave a tapestry of enlightenment. Moreover, tantra combines physical, verbal, and mental expressions of each practice, which braid together creating a holistic path of development. Because one cannot integrate and practice simultaneously all the sutra themes without previously training in each individually, tantra practice is extremely advanced.
The root of the word tantra means to stretch or to continue without a break. Emphasizing this connotation, the Tibetan scholars translated the term as gyu (rgyud), which means an unbroken continuity. Here, the reference is to continuity over time, as in a succession of moments of a movie, rather than to continuity through space, as in a succession of segments of pavement. Moreover, the successions discussed in tantra resemble eternal movies: they have neither beginnings nor ends.
Two movies are never the same, and even two copies of the identical movie can never be the same roll of film. Similarly, everlasting successions always maintain their individualities. Furthermore, the frames of movies play one at a time, with everything changing from frame to frame. In the same manner, moments in everlasting successions are ephemeral, with only one moment occurring at a time and without anything solid enduring throughout the successions.
There are many benefits to achieve through a practice that includes Tantric techniques, and the effectiveness will, of course, depend on the individual person and what they already bring to the table, so to speak. A person or couple who has done some kind of activity in the personal growth arena may have a head start on the person who is just beginning to delve into the more interior aspects of life.
Most Westerners will only investigate the sexual aspects of Tantra, though the richer areas involve great personal evolution through consciousness. The sexual aspects give us practices that teach us focus and consciousness using sexuality as the vehicle. People will likely come face to face with some of the esoteric aspects in their practice of the techniques, though. These will be fringe benefits they won’t consciously undertake but that they will feel the affects of.
The word Kundalini is derived from a Sanskrit word ‘Kundal’ meaning coiled up. It is the primordial dormant energy present in three-and-a-half, coils at the base of the spine in a triangular bone called the Sacrum. The Latin name ‘Os Sacrum’ suggests that it is a holy or sacred part of the body. The ancient Greeks were aware of this and therefore they called it the ‘Hieron Osteon’, noting that it was the last bone to be destroyed when the body is burnt, and also attributed supernatural powers to it. Egyptians also held this bone to be very valuable and considered it the seat of special power.
In the West, Sacrum is symbolised by the sign of Aquarius and by the Holy Grail, container of the water of life.
The Kundalini, which is to nourish the tree of life within us, is coiled up like a serpent and therefore it has been called, ‘The Serpent Power’. It has been described in great detail in the Upanishads. Kundalini Yoga is supposed to be supreme in all the Yogas. Guru Vashistha asserted that Kundalini is the seat of absolute knowledge. The awareness of the presence of this primordial energy Kundalini within the human body was considered by the sages and saints to be the highest knowledge. The Kundalini and Chakras have been vividly described in Vedic and Tantric texts.
This column is dedicated to exposing myths about love-making and presenting little known techniques from the Tantric arts to encourage the full-flowering of female sexuality, that the healing of Woman, Man and Gaia may be realized —
Heaven on Earth now!
Tantra, from the Sanskrit word for fabric, is an ancient term that embraces a wide range of ideas and practices variously associated with Harrapan, Hindu, Buddhist and Taoist belief systems. In its broadest sense, tantra refers to a spiritual path that seeks direct spiritual experience through meditation, the use of ritual sacraments and sometimes, ecstatic sexual practices.
In essence, the physical world is seen as reflecting the greater cosmic order, and enlightenment is taught to be as readily attainable by direct experience of the material world as by the practice of monastic asceticism. Tantric yoga teaches that spiritual unity with the divine can be achieved in union with a partner. The physical act of love thus becomes, both figuratively and literally, an act in which the dualities of spirit / matter, mind / body and self / other are transcended. Perhaps the finest expressions of this longed-for state of blissful transcendence occur in the Yab-Yum (male principle-female principle) drawings that abound in tantric art, here represented in the Amitayus (Buddha of Long Life) and Kuntozangpo (Primordial Buddha) images.
Tibetan thangka paintings are two-dimensional images of multi-dimensional worlds that depict the many deities and their various spheres of influence. Beautiful artworks in their own right, they also serve, to the initiated, as mnemonics that map the esoteric coordinates of the physical, psychological and spiritual planes. Authentic transmission of the truths hidden within these images was only assured, over time, by the codification of complex symbolic systems handed down by generations of dedicated artists. Underlying each sinuously swirling image is a mathematically precise grid defining the exact arrangement of every element in the composition. Each angle, each colour. each object, fulfills its predestined place in a grander design, and the glory of the creation of expression lies in cleaving as closely as humanly possible to an ineffable ideal.
“Tantra Is the Science of Transforming Ordinary Lovers into Soul Mates”
Tantra is one of the greatest treasures that is—lying there, unused. The day humanity uses it, the earth will become aglow with a new love….This very earth can be paradise….It is impossible if you depend on nature. It is very, very possible if you depend on Tantra. —Osho
Recently a new friend, Vibha, who has been an Osho devotee for many years, was kind enough to share some thoughts on tantra with me. I’ll supplement our dialogue with quotations from Osho’s discourses, which she generously furnished.
M: How do you define “tantra?”
V: Tantra is a mystical experience born out of the union between man and woman. It is an opportunity to open to energy rising up through your body and to experience merging with the Divine. It is a doorway into cosmic oneness. Tantra offers methods to open the chakra system to a vertical flow of energy and to grace descending and permeating our lives.
Tantra is a way of accessing your natural potential to love and be loved in a balanced and blissful way. Sexual union is a door provided by nature to access an ecstatic state of being. The science of tantra offers methods to open that door with sensitivity and intelligence allowing you and your lover to journey together on a transformational path of ecstasy.
If you remain aware you will come to know that sex is not just sex. Sex is the outermost layer, deep inside is the love, and even deeper is prayer, and deepest is God himself. Sex can become a cosmic experience. Then it is Tantra. —Osho
When all the seven centers (chakras) of a man are in tune and in harmony with all the seven centers of a woman, then you have found a soul mate. Tantra is alchemy; it can transform your centers. It can create a rhythm and harmony between you and your beloved. It is love at its peak. —Osho Read the rest of this entry »
Questions and Answers about Tantra and tantric practices
Lets Talk Tantra?
Clarifications and questions about Tantra compiled from some of the many interviews and briefings given by Dawn Cartwright on the subject
Q: Are these the correct definitions of Tantra: is it about total communication between couples that allows them to give and received deeper pleasure. It is a 5,000 year old spiritual practice that grew out of Hinduism and Buddhism with the belief that followers should focus on the here-and-now, and experience every part of life to the fullest –including sexual gratification?
Dawn: Tantra is a spiritual practice that dates back over 5,000 years. Tantra blossomed, as a kind of spiritual revolution, from ancient Hinduism and Tibetan Buddhism. This revolution centered around the sensuality of life, taking the more puritanical practices of the old Hinduism and Buddhism to a place of greater aliveness through the inclusion of sexual practices and the admittance of women onto the path. Tantra began to be seen as the path of pleasure, and the sexual union between man and woman as the highest meditation possible. Today, many couples experience the rewards of this millennia old practice of Tantra as these meditations and lovemaking techniques lead them to deeper intimacy and greatly increased sexual pleasure.
Q: Would you say then that Tantric lovemaking is about partners being naked in every sense of the word–it’s not only a physical connection, but a spiritual one as well, with the goal being mutual pleasure that lasts as long as you’d like it to?
Dawn: Tantric lovemaking opens the partners to one another on every level; sexually, intimately and spiritually . . . yes . . . making them naked and beautifully vulnerable. It’s in this state that couples are able to really experience the passion of being fully seen and met and they find the desire and capacity to extend the connection into hours of loving, creating a deep sense of bliss between them.
Qianshou Kuanyin (Bodhisattva with 1,000 Hands) Dance was a performance by members of Chinese Art Ensemble of disabled people, broadcasted on China Central Television during the Spring Festival Eve Variety Show on February 8, 2005. Their instructors stood at the sides of the stage and wave their hands to count the beats for all dancers.
Kuan Yin is the Chinese name for the Bodhisattva Avalokitesvara. Folk traditions in China and other East Asian countries have added many distinctive characteristics and legends. Avalokitesvara was originally depicted as Buddha when he was still a prince, and therefore wears chest-revealing clothing and may even sport a moustache. However, in China, Kuan Yin is usually depicted as a woman, the Goddess of Benevolence, who is in charge of birth. In rural areas, villagers call her “Songzi Niangniang”, the Goddess who blesses women who want to get pregnant. So, Kuan Yin is often enshrined and worshipped by women.
The video is amazing, and keep in mind that those dancers are deaf and still their moves are flawless.
An Important Anatomy Lesson
Everybody knows that the penis is not a muscle. If it was, you’d probably be at the gym right now. What most people don’t know is that there is a muscle that plays a crucial role in thefunctioning of the penis: the pubococcygeus muscle (pyoo-bo-cocksee-gee-us). Say that five times fast.
The pubococcygeus muscle-or PC muscle, for short-is actually a group of muscles that run from the pubic bone to the tailbone. Now, you may already know this muscle in a different way. The PC muscle is the muscle you use to stop the flow of urine from the bladder. It is also the muscle that contracts when you ejaculate, moving the semen up through the penis and out of the body.
The PC muscle is a busy little muscle. But let me tell you, as far as most men are concerned, it is still grossly underemployed. Don’t you worry-we’re going to change all that very soon. Male multiple orgasm depends on a strong PC muscle. The PC muscle is the key to penile reformation. It’s your ticket to the big leagues . . .your way to the top. Most of the techniques you will learn in later chapters cannot be done without PC power. That’s why the first set of exercises I introduce in this book is designed specifically to “prep” the PC muscle. These exercises, found in chapter 4, are crucial and must be done first. They cannot be skipped and they cannot be taken lightly. So don’t skip them, and don’t take them lightly. Please.
Power to the PC
Now you may be thinking, “I’m not eighteen anymore. My penis doesn’t function like the penis of a younger man, exercise or no exercise.” Listen to me. It doesn’t matter how old or young you are. Is an eighteen-year-old too young to go to the gym to strengthen his biceps? Is a sixty-year-old too old to walk three miles a day to strengthen his heart? Of course not. A muscle can be strengthened at any age. Strengthening exercises like these also lead to better health and a better sense of well-being, not to mention improved self-esteem.
The penis is no different. The PC muscle is a muscle, plain and simple. It works and responds like any other muscle, and it can be strengthened like any other muscle. And I’ve never seen a muscle that had a greater impact on a man’s self-esteem.
Just a Few Minutes a Day
Mastering the techniques of male multiple orgasm is a snap once you are “PC-ready.” And prepping your PC-getting it combat-ready-is simple. But you must be willing to stick with the program. That’s why right now I’m going to ask you for a commitment. I know how scary the word commitment can be to some guys, but this is one commitment you’ll never regret. Every man who is willing to do the work can bring his PC muscle to a state of readiness within two to three weeks. Often it takes even less than that. All you need is a few minutes a day to work the program. That’s right . . . just a few minutes a day. That’s a whole lot less time than you probably spend in the gym right now working on every muscle in your body but the one that really counts.
I know you can do it. All you need to do is stay committed to the process. Remember, your ability to master the secrets of multiple orgasm depends on a strong PC muscle. So warm up those cold feet and say yes to a commitment that is bound to change your life.
There are only two guidelines ask you to follow:
GUIDELINE 1: Always do at least one of the two exercises in each pair. It doesn’t matter whether you do the partner exercise or the solo exercise, but you must do one of them.
GUIDELINE 2: Please do the exercises in the order in which they are presented. The exercises build on each other, and you may get very frustrated if you try to skip around.
The easiest way to do these exercises is to read through each one before you begin. If you are working on a partner exercise, both of you should read through the exercise thoroughly. Discuss the exercise after you have read it. As I just explained to the women reading this book, both partners need to understand their roles in each exercise.
If either of you has any doubts, flush them out before you get started. Keep that line of communication open and clear. The more you talk now, the fewer complications you’ll have once the lights are dimmed. Pace yourselves. Don’t try to go through every exercise in a long weekend. Give yourselves weeks, or even months, to wander through the program. Learning to be multiorgasmic isn’t anything like learning to play the violin. This process is going to be
pleasurable from start to finish. You’re not going to have to wait until you get to Carnegie Hall before you start enjoying yourself. The most important thing is that you take your time and keep the pressure off.
Exercise 1: Hide and Seek
The very first thing you need to do is find your PC muscle. For
some men this is very simple-you probably knew where to find it the
moment I mentioned it. You may even be squeezing it right now.
But many men are completely unfamiliar with the muscles in this
area of the body. All of the individual muscles close to the groin-
buttocks, abdomen, thighs, and PC-may feel the same. They might all
feel like one big muscle mass. That needs to change right now. Here
is the simplest way to find your PC muscle and isolate it from all
First, gently place one or two fingers right behind your
testicles. Pretend that you are urinating. Now try to stop the flow.
That muscle you just used to turn off the flow from the bladder is
your PC muscle. Did you feel it tightening? Maybe you also noticed
that your penis and testicles “jumped” a little when you flexed your
It is very important that your stomach muscles and thigh
muscles remain relaxed. Did they get tense too? Try again. This time focus just on the PC.
TROUBLESHOOTING TIP; You are not trying to get an erection here, and you do not need an erection to exercise the PC. So relax, and let your penis respond naturally to these exercises.
Exercise 2: Squeeze Play (three to five minutes a day)
Now that you’ve found your PC muscle, here is your next
exercise: Three times a day, flex the PC twenty times. Hold it for
one or two seconds each time, then release. That’s it. Twenty
squeezes, three times a day. I know it sounds simple, but words
cannot express how important this exercise is.
You do not need to keep your finger on the PC during these
exercises. You should be able to feel it move internally. If you
don’t, or if you’re not sure, then keep your finger on the PC the
first few times you do your exercises.
Breathe normally during this exercise. Like any other musclebuilding
exercise, proper breathing is always important. You don’t
want to hold your breath.
I want you to repeat this exercise three times a day, every
day, for three weeks. A consistent exercise regimen is the most
effective way to maximize the strengthening of your PC muscle in the
shortest amount of time. And it’s worth every moment.
TWO PC PITFALLS
These exercises are not hard, but there are two common mistakes
men make when they start these exercises that you need to be aware
of before we go any further:
MISTAKE 1: Doing too many reps. I know you’re feeling very
enthusiastic right now, but there is such a thing as overdoing it.
The PC muscle can get sore like any other muscle. You may have
already discovered this on your own. Go slow at first, as you would
when you start any other exercise for the first time, and let the
muscle build. You can pour it on later.
MISTAKE 2: Failing to isolate the PC. The PC is a small group of
muscles, which need to be isolated from the many larger muscles
close by during your exercises. As I said before, it is important
that your stomach, upper thighs, and buttocks are all completely
relaxed when you are working out the PC. They should not be moving.
Are you having difficulty isolating the PC from other muscles?
Many men have this problem when they try these exercises for the
first time. Not to worry. If you can’t stop yourself from tensing
other muscles during your PC exercises, you simply need to exhaust
these muscles first so they don’t interfere with your new exercise
Let’s say you have a tendency to tense your stomach muscles
during your PC workout. What you need to do is tense and untense
your stomach muscles at least ten or twenty times before you begin
your PC exercises. That should tire them out enough so they don’t
get in the way. The same applies for buttock, thigh, and groin
muscles. If you have to work these muscles really hard before you
get to work on your PC, that’s okay. Do thirty or forty reps if
twenty isn’t enough. This may sound like a lot of work, but you’re
not going to have to do this for the rest of your life-just for a
couple of days.
Once you have really isolated your PC, your muscle “confusion”
should dissolve, leaving you free to devote your full attention to
working the program. With that in mind, let us now return to our
regularly scheduled program, already in progress.
Exercise 3: The Big Squeeze (two to three minutes a day)
Have you done your reps three times a day for the last three
weeks? Good. Now you’re ready to learn what I call “The Big Squeeze”
(a.k.a. “The Power Squeeze” or “The Death Grip”). I want you to keep
doing your twenty quick squeezes, three times a day. But now you’re
going to add ten really slow squeezes. This is what you do. Take
five seconds to slowly squeeze your PC as tight as you can. Now hold
the tension for a full five seconds, if possible. Finally, release
the tension gradually over the next five seconds. You should be able
to feel yourself really working the muscle.
This might be a bit difficult at first. You may only be able to
do one or two fifteen-second squeezes before you tire. That’s okay.
But try to eventually work up to ten full repetitions, each taking
ten to fifteen seconds. It may take you a few days, or even a few
weeks, to get there. That’s okay. It’s more important that you don’t
push yourself too hard. You’re not training to be an American
Gladiator. Just enjoy the process and keep squeezing.
Play by the Rules
Before we begin, you need to know the three of sensate focus:
RULE 1: Pay attention to exactly where you are touching or where you are being touched. Try to stay as focused as possible.
RULE 2: Stay in the here and now. Don’t think about what happened
last week or what could happen next Thursday. Try to let go of
anything that is not happening at this very moment.
RULE 3: Don’t put any pressure on yourself. If you’re working with a partner, don’t put any pressure on her either. Sex therapists call this “nondemand interaction.” I will call the sensate focus
exercises “demand-free” or “pressure-free” exercises. There are no
grades here, no good and bad, no right or wrong, just touching and
Preparing for the Exercises
From this point forward, I recommend you do all of the
exercises in-the book in a quiet room that is free from
distractions. You are going to need a comfortable bed (you may
prefer a comfortable chair for the solo exercises). You are also
going to need some K-Y jelly, baby oil, massage oil, cream, or other
lubricant. Be sure to use a lubricant that does not irritate the
genitals-for women, K-Y jelly is usually the safest choice. Keep a
clean towel handy. If you use condoms, have them by the bedside
within easy reach.
You may find it helpful to have a clock to keep you from
completely losing track of the time. If there is a telephone in the
room, turn it off. If there are children in the house, they should
be sound asleep or with a babysitter. The room should be lit
according to your preferences, but I don’t recommend playing any
music. You need to focus as much as possible on the sensations you
are about to experience.
If you were learning these techniques at our offices, the setup
would be no different. We provide a quiet room with a bed,
lubricants, clock, towel, etc. There is no special equipment that is
Learning the Genital Caress
There are many different sensate focus techniques. For the
purposes of this book, however, there is only one technique that you
need to learn: the genital caress. You can learn the sensate focus
genital caress with a partner (Exercise 4) or by yourself (Exercise
5). You are going to need about one hour for Exercise 4 and thirty
minutes for Exercise 5.
Exercise 4: Touch of Heaven (with a partner)
In this exercise, one partner will play the active role while
the other plays the passive role. Then you will switch in the middle
so no one feels shortchanged.
Let’s say that the woman is going to be the passive partner
first. The first thing she needs to do is lie on her back and get
very comfortable. She needs to take her time and get completely
relaxed. This exercise does not begin until the passive partner is
As the active partner, you are going to start slowly, gently
stroking the front of her body for about fifteen or twenty minutes.
The style of touching is called a caress. When you caress, you touch
in a very, very slow, focused fashion. Because this is a genital
caress, your stroking is going to focus primarily on her genitals,
though it does not have to be limited to her genitals.
Slowly start to caress her genitals with your fingers or mouth,
touching both the outside and inside of her vagina. Use lots of
lubrication. Focus intently on the areas you are touching. Pay
careful attention to what they feel like and what they look like.
Absorb yourself in those sensations. Remember that this is a demandfree
exercise. You are not touching to please her or to turn her on.
You are touching to please you. That takes the pressure off her and
it also takes the pressure off you.
All your partner needs to do is lie still, relax, and feel her
sensations. She should stay completely passive, with her eyes
closed. She shouldn’t move. She should not try to reciprocate. She
should not talk unless you are making her uncomfortable. She needs
only to let herself feel your touch. If she gets distracted, she
needs to gently bring her focus back to where you are touching her.
If you notice her body getting tense, lightly pat her on the leg as
a signal for her to relax. Try to stay as focused as possible,
deeply absorbed in touching her and the way that feels. If your mind
starts wandering, you need to gently refocus your mind on the
caress. It doesn’t matter how many times your mind strays. All that
matters is that each time you recognize the shift, you bring
yourself back to the exercise.
This is a wonderful technique for learning to relax and connect
to your feelings. Your only goal is to get as much pleasure as
possible for yourself while your partner is getting as much pleasure
as possible for herself. If you find yourself getting mechanical or
getting bored with your caressing, slow down. Chances are, you
aren’t letting yourself really be in the moment.
TROUBLESHOOTING TIP: If you start rubbing your partner’s clitoris or
trying to turn her on in some way, she will be able to feel the
shift in your intentions. She is playing the passive role and is not
supposed to respond in any way. So don’t try to change the rules.
Stick with the program.
Now it’s your turn. Once you’ve played the active role for
about twenty minutes, you are ready to switch roles. (Of course, you
can take longer if you wish.) This time, the man will be taking the
Lie down comfortably on your back with your legs slightly
spread. Let your arms rest at your sides, or place them under your
head. Once you have settled into a position, try not to change it.
Your partner will spend the next twenty or so minutes caressing
the front of your body, concentrating primarily on caressing your
genitals. I recommend she uses baby oil or some other lubricant you
both like. She can caress you with her hands, with her mouth, or
Your job is to stay focused on her touch, and how it feels.
Don’t move around and don’t talk. Let your partner explore the
feeling of touching your penis and scrotum.
It does not matter whether or not you get an erection. A soft
penis should feel as good to her as a hard penis, just different.
She is only focusing on the sensation of touching you, not on your
arousal (and not on hers). If you do get an erection, it is very
important to understand that you don’t have to do anything with it.
All you need to do right now is enjoy the sensations of your own
TROUBLESHOOTING TIP: Make sure your partner knows that her goal is
not to turn you on. All she is supposed to do is touch you in a way
that feels good to her.
Don’t flex your PC muscle during this exercise. Don’t hold your
breath. Just close your eyes, relax, and focus on her caresses. If
you become very aroused and you ejaculate, that’s okay. Just let
your partner wipe you off and continue her caress. The important
thing is that you don’t try to force anything.
If your partner senses that you are tensing up, she should
signal you to relax by gently tapping you on the leg. The only time
you should talk to her is if she is doing something that makes you
uncomfortable. Otherwise, just release yourself into the moment and
enjoy the sensations.
If you find yourself drifting off, gently bring your focus back
to where your partner is touching you. It doesn’t matter how often
you drift. Just practice bringing yourself back into the moment.
If you don’t have a partner, or if you prefer to practice by
yourself, the sensate focus genital caress is still quite pleasurable. It is important to remember that this is not a
masturbation exercise. It is a way of experiencing the many rich
sensations of your own arousal. Ejaculation is not a goal. If it
happens, that’s fine, but you are not trying to make it happen. Your
goal is simply to create and experience as much sensation in your
penis as possible.
Exercise 5: Alone at Last (solo)Lie on your back, close your eyes, and get very comfortable (you may prefer to sit in a comfortable chair). Using plenty of lubrication, slowly, gently touch yourself in a caressing way. You may want to start by touching your nipples or thighs, since both are probably quite sensitive. Then slowly move to the genitals. Once you begin caressing your penis, do not use a masturbation stroke. Do nottry to turn yourself on.
Explore every crease and fold in the
genital area. Take your time.
Remember that the most important thing is to stay as relaxed as
possible and focused on the here and now. You are not trying to do
anything except enjoy the sensations. If you have an erection,
that’s fine. If you don’t, that’s fine too. But you should not be
trying to give yourself one. This is a pressure-free exercise. All
you want to do is experience the richness of your own arousal. If
your mind starts to wander, gently bring your focus back to the
sensations you’re experiencing in the moment. This may happen
several times. That’s okay. Just keep bringing your focus back to
TROUBLESHOOTING TIP: If you have thoughts like, “I wonder if I’m
really hard,” or “I wonder if I could give myself an orgasm,” you
are thinking about your performance. That means you’re putting
subtle pressure on yourself. Just stay with the sensations. That’s
your only goal.
I suggest you do this exercise for at least twenty minutes, if
not longer. Thirty minutes is ideal. Sometimes, in the absence of a
partner, there is a tendency to rush everything. This defeats the
whole purpose of sensate focus. Remember that the emphasis is on
sensuality, not sexuality. Some men feel a bit self-conscious during
this exercise. This is very normal, especially if you are a man who
does not masturbate often, or someone who tends to rush to the point
of climax. Don’t be concerned. Your discomfort should ease over
It Sure Feels Good, But …
The sensate focus genital caress feels pretty terrific. That’s
reason enough to learn it. From this point on, almost every exercise
in this book begins with this caress. That’s another good reason to
learn it. But why is it so important?
The sensate focus genital caress lets you pay attention to your
sensations without getting distracted. It lets you focus. It lets
you stay in the here and now. And it keeps the pressure off you and
off your partner. You need to be able to do all of these things to
master the art of male multiple orgasm.
We can talk and talk about the many benefits of the sensate
focus genital caress. But you need some experience actually feeling
it. That’s why I’ve included the above exercises. So enjoy yourself,
repeat them as many times as you like, but remember that the
pleasure you’re getting right now is only one of the payoffs.
Guest article by Chandi Devi
Sexual Health CAN be improved naturally through the practices of Tantra Yoga and tantric sex. Besides having a strong body/mind/spirit connection, every loving couple should also enjoy multiple, powerful sexual orgasms, which stimulate and increase the secretion of the pineal and pituitary glands.
Tantric sex has a rejuvenating effect, improving men and women’s sexual health. Frequent orgasms, as one of the brain wave stimulations, will alter body chemistry. Depression and stress disappear. Women’s sexual health is greatly improved. Headaches, menstrual cramps, urinary-tract problems, weak immune function, incontinence, etc. virtually become a thing of the past.
In tantric sex, the brain chemistry is affected by empowering the endocrine glands for more hGH, serotonin, DHEA, and testosterone.
Scientific and medical studies prove that sexual health improves drastically… stimulating blood circulation, detoxifying the body through the breath, strengthening the cardiovascular, endocrine/immune and nervous functions, leading to improved sexual health, rejuvenation and longevity.
Orgasms that last at least 20 minutes can alleviate depression altogether. Take years off our face as depression is eliminated from our life. Prolong life span, strengthen the immune system and improve overall sexual health by freeing our body and mind through tantric sex.
Men can derive great benefits by increasing sexual quantity and sexual quality in a safe, healthy, natural way through tantric sex. Tantric sex focuses on the benefits of prolonging the sex act for more intimacy and health benefits.
Men are most concerned with:
- Having a soft erection
- Inability to maintain an erection
- Low intensity
- Premature ejaculation
- Prolonging ejaculation
- Performance skills
- Self confidence
- Satisfying his partner
- Male sexual health
While men’s sexual health concerns are more of a physical nature, women’s concerns seem to be a function of their minds.
Women want to enjoy sex, but their main problem usually stems from Western based religions or feelings of guilt and shame.
Women’s problems with sex generally fall in the following categories:
- Loss of interest in sex
- Loss of sensations
- Painful intercourse
- Inability to reach orgasm
- Having weak or mild orgasms
- Weak internal muscles due to childbirth etc.
- Sexual health concerns
- Sexual guilt and shame
- Fear of intimacy
- Need to be in control
Loss of interest can arise from being too busy, overworked, having an insensitive lover who doesn’t know how to make you happy. The guilt and shame factor is deeply imbedded in our Western culture mainly perpetuated through religion and “osmosis” …the Western mind-set. In the East, the body and all its functions are considered beautiful and natural.
Frequent orgasms can benefit women’s sexual health tremendously. However, there is a vast difference in having an ordinary orgasm and having a tantric orgasm. Ordinary orgasms, which are the norm, are of short duration, isolated in the sex organs. Tantric sex orgasms involve the full body, mind and spirit, lasting for hours as well.
Benefits of Tantric Orgasm
To obtain the benefits of a tantric orgasm, the shakti, or energy, the rising kundalini, must pierce each of the chakras (vortexes of energy in the subtle body) as it ascends the spinal cord. It must reach the brain’s central nervous system and endocrine command center – the hypothalamus and pituitary gland, which commands the changes that benefits our sexual health.
Benefits of Frequent Orgasms
Frequent and powerful orgasms increase the level of the orgasm hormone, oxytocin. The oxytocin level is linked to the personality, passion, social skills and emotional quotient (EQ), all of which affects career, marriage, emotions and social life. Orgasms are very beneficial for sexual health because they empower our pituitary (brain function).
We benefit from tantra practices on the physical, spiritual and emotional levels. Hari Om Tat Sat.
About this Contributor Chandi Devi has always been involved in both the creative arts as well as the mystic arts. Chandi showed great talent in the spiritual and mystic arts even as a young child, an interest that would eventually lead her to completely immerse herself in the study of tantra and all the meditative arts. Through the tantric path, the Shakti (goddess energy) awakened in Chandi a profoundly deep and broad passion for the diversity of life’s treasures, including spiritual studies, yoga, holistic health, healing, nutrition, vegetarianism, fitness, exercise, Vedic astrology, card reading, feng shui, tarot, pets, animal rights, politics, beauty, fashion, painting, writing, sculpting, dancing, singing, songwriting, doll making, costuming, and many more.
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by Swami Nostradamus Virato
Thousands of years ago, people had achieved a high degree of awareness and an alchemical formula for converting what we know as sex energy — called by many names, such as Vital Force, Elan Vital, Soul, Chi, etc. — into a state of divinity.
Their spiritual philosophy held sexuality as a divine rite and an expression of union. Through an awakened consciousness, they practiced Tantra with an artistic and cultural lifestyle of pure bliss and harmony.
Unfortunately as our planet moved out of the Taurian Age (4300-1700 B.C.) and became masculine and aggressive, it also lost the deep spiritual connection to this vital sexual energy.
While sexuality touches every part of lives, it’s sad that this most pleasurable, life affirming phenomenon — the act of creating our birth itself — is today tainted with fear, abuse and general negativity.
Now, like the spring flower freeing itself from the frozen snow, Tantra is again respected, offering the Aquarian Age a way to reverse the negative energy on the planet and a way to release ourselves and reach transcendence.
What Is Tantra?
Tantra is the total surrender, or letting go of all mental, emotional and cultural conditioning, so that universal life energy may flow through you like a river without any effort. It is a letting go to a universal oneness…to love. When fear is removed, Tantra remains. The word “Tantra” has many definitions, and perhaps its real meaning has been lost to antiquity.
Some say it comes from the Sanskrit or Hindi word for fabric or tapestry, meaning that it is woven into one’s life. Others say that it comes from two Sanskrit words, Tanoti and Trayati Tanoti means to expand consciousness, and Trayati means to liberate consciousness. One might then say that Tantra expands and liberates consciousness.
The highest possible synthesis between love and meditation, Tantra is also the connection between the third dimension and other planes of existence beyond mere materiality. While not a religious philosophy, Tantra embraces a deep spiritual understanding of life, and an ancient art of living in harmony with existence. It is treating sexual energy as a friend, rather than something to be suppressed or talked about in low tones. It does not deny sex, or consider sex a hindrance to enlightenment or Heavenly Grace. To the contrary, Tantra is the only spiritual path which says that sex is sacred and not a sin. Tantrikas are God-loving rather than God-fearing.
There is a most beautiful word for sex in the Sanskrit language, and that is Kama which means sex/love together, undivided and indivisible. Most everyone is familiar with the classic Kama Sutra, the 7th Century Tantric scripture. Kama is also the name for the Hindu Goddess of love… and love is what Tantra encourages — total love, including the mind, the spirit, and the body.
Let It All Go!
Tantra doesn’t tell you to control your sexual urges to reach God, but rather the opposite. It supports the development of this vital energy to achieve union with Divinity. The essence of Tantra is the full expression of existence… a merging with, rather than a withdrawing from. It is the ultimate yoga which is Sanskrit for union. In Tantra, sexual energy is used as ignition for firing the Kundalini energy, the body’s biological energy system, merging it/you with universal energy.
Unlike Taoism (which actually stemmed from ancient Tantra), that says bring your energy inside, Tantra says let it go…let it all go. There is no reason to hang on to anything if eternity and infinity exist.
In Tantra, sex is used as the cosmic union of opposites to create the polarity charge that connects with the primordial energy from which everything arises in the universe…the totality of All. We dance with the electromagnetic force field of our partner, and the dance leads to God/Cosmic Oneness.
The basic difference between unenlightened sexuality and Tantra is that Tantra declares “the kingdom of God is within your heart.” In Sanskrit, it is called Punde So Brahmande, “the physical body is the temple of God, and the body is the replica or representation of the entire Cosmos.”
Tantra says we can celebrate life when the idea of separation, or otherness, disappears from the body and mind, allowing people to meet on all levels of consciousness — physical, vital, mental, intellectual, and spiritual. Sex becomes sacred and divine when you approach it from your heart and body, rather than from your mind. When that energy comes from a space deep within you — your essential self — it connects you to God/Goddess/All That Is… moving you into the realm of spirit!
Copyright 1995 Sw.Virato.